R.E.S.P.E.C.T is the only rule – Good Faith and Honest Intentions.
- Rule #1 RESPECT – Understand & Question before Disagree & Criticize.
- Rule #2 RESPECT – No “Ad Hominem” attacks on the Individual or their Tribe.
- Rule #3 RESPECT – Duty of Care when using Humour or Rhetorical Irony.
Finally – Rules are for guidance of the wise and the enslavement of fools.
Now Read on:
Several papers and posts here describe each of these aspects, but even when dealing with would-be factual knowledge, the content may not be entirely objective or logical and anyway, the process is always rhetorical, involving communication between human individuals and the tribes with which we identify. In simplest form:
“Tread softly, for you tread upon my dreams.
(W B Yeats)
“Reflect on what you hold sacred
and be gentle with what other people hold sacred.”
The rules of engagement below, from earlier collaborative forums, seems to apply equally to any correspondence, face-to-face debate, on-line commenting and/or social media, formally moderated or otherwise. Social media will be all our downfall if we don’t respect the rules:
And there is only one rule: R.E.S.P.E.C.T
(Good Faith – honest intentions and mutual respect for the rules, the content and the participants.)
Rule #1 RESPECT – Understand & Question before Disagree & Criticize.
Critical debate is essential to all our agendas and anyone voicing direct disagreement with or criticism of the arguments of another must be seen to have understood, or sincerely attempted to understand, the others’ argument and to have related their counter argument to it. Conversely, if someone disagrees with you directly, your first response, unless you see your own error, must be to establish that they do indeed understand your position. (See also Rappaport’s Rule(s) also known as Steelmanning, below).
There are many other tactical rules for resolving apparent disagreement. Evolving mutual understanding always beats attempting to prove yourself right and the other guy wrong, except in particular mutually-agreed, artificially-controlled “debate” and “critique” circumstances. And remember, if it’s a new conversation with someone new to you, the early part of this “understand & question” phase may be as much about values you may or may not share as the content of the particular argument. If you jump too quickly to testing the others position by summarising it back to them in rhetorical questions you could be much wider of the mark than you realise, offending unspoken values held sacred. Until you know you’re both ready for a good-faith steel-man assume the principle of charity, that the other person is at least as virtuous as you are in terms of values and knowledge. “Surely you don’t mean X?” is effectively a strawman if it’s something you couldn’t already agree to yourself.
Rule #2 RESPECT – No “Ad Hominem” attacks on the Individual or their Tribe.
Absolute no-no. Anyone having trouble with an individual should resolve directly with that individual, involving a confidential and mutually-respected mediator if necessary, with public sanction and/or disengagement only as a last resort.
And again, remember a straw-man couched as a rhetorical question copied @ third parties may be received ad hominem, even if it is not intended as a direct insult.
Rule #3 RESPECT – Duty of Care when using Humour or Rhetorical Irony.
OK, but life (mine and yours) would be boring and sterile if we politely agreed with each other. So lively, critical, robust, intelligent debate in good faith is positively encouraged. Unless you are recognised as The Court Jester what will not be tolerated is any perceived intent to circumvent Rules #1 & #2 under cover of rhetorical tricks or ironic humour. Needless to say any actual intellectual dishonesty or deception is bad faith. You can never further objectify Rule #3 definitively, but example rules of thumb might help:
- If you use rhetorical questions and/or (playful) straw-men and/or (attempted) humour to draw attention to your point, you must follow-through the dialogue to mutual understanding.
- Without this follow-up, playing to the gallery, rhetorical zingers and mockery will be seen as ad-hominem of your target. Only mock someone who already knows you love and respect them. “Collapse of stout party” is merely a rhetorical move, not a conclusion.
- If you share (or like or applaud or otherwise add to) someone else’s rhetorical move, or you game the levels of irony and sarcasm on top of theirs, you inherit the responsibility for the follow-up.
- Seriously though, only The Court Jester (note below) is exempted from these rules and, fun though it is, we can’t all be court jester at any given time. That’s entertainment.
- When all is said and done, it’s a game, games have rules and creativity demands that the rules are there to be broken. Rules are for guidance of the wise and the enslavement of fools. There is after all, only one rule; see Respect.
All rules are for guidance of the wise and the enslavement of fools.
and therefore evolve by being broken – with care & respect.]
[More on – Rappaport’s Rule(s) aka Steelmanning.]
[Basic rules of thumb for The Court Jester.
More complex reality of free-speech vs offensive humour.]
[More on Intellectual Honesty.]